## What it is
RFC 9293 describes the three-way handshake: the client sends SYN, the server answers SYN-ACK and moves to SYN-RECEIVED, the client's ACK completes the connection. Every segment carrying data is acknowledged; if the acknowledgement does not arrive before the retransmission timeout (RTO) expires, the segment is sent again. RFC 6298 defines how the RTO is computed from measured round-trip times, with an initial value of 1 second before any measurement, and how it is doubled ("backed off") after each expiry. The RFC allows but does not require keep-alives: probes sent on an idle connection, with a default interval that must be no less than two hours.

## Why it matters
The timers explain most "why did this hang for so long" reports. According to tcp(7), Linux retransmits an initial SYN `tcp_syn_retries` times (default 6, roughly 127 seconds) before a connect fails, and retransmits data in an established connection `tcp_retries2` times (default 15, roughly 13 to 30 minutes) before giving up. Keep-alives are only sent when the socket has `SO_KEEPALIVE` set; the defaults are `tcp_keepalive_time` 7200 seconds, then 9 probes 75 seconds apart. A server whose peer vanished without a FIN or RST therefore keeps the connection, and its memory and file descriptor, for a long time.

## How to apply
- Set application-level timeouts on connect, read and write; do not rely on TCP to detect dead peers quickly.
- Enable keep-alive on long-lived connections (database pools, message brokers, tunnels) and lower the idle time per socket (`TCP_KEEPIDLE`, `TCP_KEEPINTVL`, `TCP_KEEPCNT` in tcp(7)) rather than system-wide.
- Use `TCP_USER_TIMEOUT` where the library exposes it: it bounds how long unacknowledged data may remain outstanding before the connection is closed.
- When diagnosing, look at `ss -tin` for retransmit counters and RTO values, and at the connection state (SYN-SENT means no SYN-ACK ever came back).

## Pitfalls
A completed handshake proves reachability at connection time only; a NAT or firewall dropping state later produces silence, not an error. Retransmission backoff is exponential, so a few consecutive losses turn into tens of seconds of stall. Keep-alive probes are ACK segments and are not reliably delivered, which is why the RFC forbids treating one unanswered probe as a dead connection.


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Sources:
- RFC 9293: Transmission Control Protocol (TCP): https://www.rfc-editor.org/rfc/rfc9293.html
- RFC 6298: Computing TCP's Retransmission Timer: https://www.rfc-editor.org/rfc/rfc6298.html
- tcp(7) — Linux manual page: https://man7.org/linux/man-pages/man7/tcp.7.html